For our dear Stefan

We greatly miss our dear Stefan, who died on 15 January 2021.



We hope that this space can take the place of a funeral or service, which has not been possible. Photos and text will be updated as we receive contributions from friends and acquaintances and the many people who knew Stefan from his fantastic shop in New Cross. We're also going to put up some of Stefan's photography and other artwork.


Any photos, memories, thoughts and ideas will be hugely appreciated. Please send them to tom@rememberingstefan.de

Let us know what's specifically for sharing and we will post them up individually with your names.


If you would like to make a donation in Stefan's name, please do so to the New Cross Gate Trust.


Thank you.

For Stefan, meaning was to be found in the beauty of the natural world, in artistic creation and in championing the interests of other people.


Most of us know about his work over the last 20 years in London: Brockwell Park Community Greenhouses, CoolTan Arts, Bee Urban, finally in his and Adrian's wonderfully multifaceted shop Green Onions in New Cross. In this one venture, Stefan's different passions could find an outlet: his unfailing sense of the aesthetic, his passion for community issues and for the promotion of local artisans and artists, his deep knowledge of plants and of everything to do with good food and healthy living. He conveyed these passions in the calm, effortless and generous manner we all loved.


Fewer know about the time Stefan spent in Zimbabwe, entirely on his own initiative after finishing secondary school. There, he worked in schools at the extremes of the social spectrum: an expensive public school in Harare as well as a rudimentary area-school in the countryside, where children would arrive at all times of the morning after walking for miles. His happiest times in Zimbabwe were spent with the less privileged – adults just as much as children. Although they were from a totally different world from the one he knew, in their company he could be his sincere, empathetic and gently witty self.


As you can see too from the photos, Stefan loved to be with his brother Thomas' children Cara and Daniel. On several occasions he took them fishing off the pier in Whitby, where he had spent happy days as a child landing flatfish and swapping observations with other anglers in a broad North Yorkshire accent.


Stefan Alexander Finnis was born in Australia in 1974 to a German mother and an Australian father. He grew up in Cambridge, Cologne, Whitby and Nottingham, and studied English and Education at Cambridge.


Stefan was contending all his life, to varying degrees of impact, with a depressive disorder of a particularly devastating kind. His response to what he himself called "a cruel fate" was to seek out the good and the beautiful and to foster these to the very end.


We will carry Stefan, and the singular example he set, in our hearts for ever.


- Nigel Finnis



The candle that was lit at friends Kristin's & Thomas' house in West Norwood

on 17 February, the day Stefan was cremated. The candle is from

Barnaby at Bee Urban, where Stefan spent many days helping out.

                  From John in Antwerp                                                                 From Darren in New Cross Gate            

                                                                                                      "With special card arrangement and gold friendship bar"

   

More words and photographs from friends here.